A FBQ Guide to Understanding Your Man: Kennel Club
The Queen was out with some of his straight male friends earlier this week. We went to see the Wizards play the Magic at the Verizon Center. If any of you Miss Things care: the Wizards won after trailing by double digits in the first quarter. Good game!
Post game, we went to the Hard Rock Cafe for a bite to eat. We were deep into a conversation regarding the acceptable amount of days to wear certain articles of clothing before washing, when a well-dressed young woman approached the youngest of our group (A young man we’ll call “Gavin.” ‘Cause that’s his name.) and started talking. After a few minutes of what the Queen would call “intense flirting”, the young woman wished us all a good evening and left. No numbers were exchanged and from what the rest of us perceived, no intent for further contact was made. Which is good, because Gavin is in a long-term, committed relationship with a pregnant partner who should be delivering any day now. Nevertheless, we were all a little flummoxed by the level of intimacy displayed by a person we all knew to be a caring, considerate, honorable man who is in love with his girlfriend. And good to his mama and grandmama. He very quickly and adamantly stated that he told the young lady that he was in a committed relationship and about to become a father. We have no doubt that he did. My query to him was: “But why ENGAGE in that kind of behavior, if there is absolutely no intent to take it further?” His response was what I knew it would be:
“I’m in a committed relationship. I’m not dead.”
Gavin tells his girlfriend EVERYTHING. He texted her immediately after the event. He says it’s one way that builds trust. It’s what they’ve been doing for the six years they’ve known each other. The other dudes nodded their understanding–and even admitted that they all had ways of taking surreptitious glances at other women when they were with theirs–even though they all show clear fidelity to their significant others in every other way. The Queen’s friends are good men: committed fathers and husbands; loyal, church-going men who vote in every election and volunteer at the Soup Kitchen. They are as different as night and day from the deadbeat men that my straight girlfriends talk about in every way. Except one.
They all go sniffing around any female that shows interest. All men do. Leading me to give you this word of advice: there are PLENTY of men out there with whom you can have a strong monogamous relationship. Just never forget:
ALL Men are Dogs. Some of us just have our Pedigree.
All right Miss Things:
Men, am I right?
Ladies, what do you think of that?
The New York Times had some nice things to say about the show. And the Queen is intrigued enough to give it a few more tries. Olivia Pope’s relationship with the President alone is enough to make me tune in. Personally, I don’t think I would have voted for him. If he ain’t smart enough to know that you don’t fuck with a black woman, then he ain’t smart enough to be the Leader of the Free World.
He may wake up to find some hot grits on his head.
Equal Justice Under Law
I still grieve for Trayvon and his family. However, now that Mr. Zimmerman has been arrested, the search for the truth can begin. I pray that, as a country we have grown far beyond the lynch mobs and southern trials of the past. Mr. Zimmerman has the same rights as every other American. Personally, I am working very hard to remember that. I guess we’ll stay tuned.
I hope you have an EXCELLENT day Miss Things!!!