For luck…

Are we all here?

Good! Let’s begin.


Why aren’t you SAYING anything?

Oh crap. You’re expecting ME to start, aren’t you?


Growing up middle class in Northeast Washington DC during the late sixties/early seventies was about as bucolic as you could get in the city. To this day, the tree-lined street on which I lived for so many years is far from the stereotypes of the DC ‘hood that you see on the local and national news. Large, unique houses with inviting lawns and wrap around porches were my playgrounds. We were the first black family to move into my neighborhood, and it pains me to say that I have no stories of racial hatred and ethnic violence. All of the white folks on our block embraced and welcomed us into their extended families. Sorry.

What I DO have are memories of late summer barbecues and clan gatherings during the holidays—fraught with rituals and traditions, which at the time I loathed for being too “black.” Now, heading into the latter chapters of my life, I see them as what they are: the “roots” that Alex Haley talked about which ground me deeply as a Black Man.

So, as a homage to those roots, I’m going to start this shindig with a tradition in my home, and just about every home I know in the African-American Community: the New Year’s Day Meal. We’ll start with Greens for Prosperity, Black-Eyed Peas for Good Luck and Cornbread….’cause it tastes FABULOUS.

Now that THAT is out of the way…where to go next?

See–that’s kind of the problem. It’s not that I’ve nothing to share. Hell, I’ve got opinions on everything. Shutting me up is harder to do than getting a Kardashian sister to give up black men. It’s just that…well… Do we REALLY NEED one more damned Blog?

by Randall Munroe

I’m new to this web logging thing. I started my first as a dynamic way to bring clarity to the next stage of my life. While my entries are sporadic, it is actually starting to accomplish the stated goal. And while it is really nice to be able to put my thoughts out there from time to time, I don’t see that particular enterprise as a forum or subject matter that has broad appeal. It’s basically verbal masturbation. Nothing wrong with a little bit of that from time to time, but the internet is chock full of literary jism–if you’ll pardon the term. No need to add my word count to that stream.

Yet something keeps tapping on my cyber shoulder in regards to an additional presence on the Web.

About a year or so ago, I found the fashion blog Tom & Lorenzo (TLo):a fun, frothy and often insightful place with two fabulous and opinionated queens at the helm. It was a heady experience being a part of their lively “commentariat.” I was completely humbled by the response that many people had to my posts. I began to define myself as a Special Guest Star–trying to entrench myself as Paul Lynde in the TLo Center Square. Once again, I found myself actively playing a supporting role in someone else’s life. I don’t want to do that any more.

Being a part of the TLo blog (and subsequently being dissed by them–a long story) made me recognize that I had been settling for commenting on stuff that may or may not have had any relevance in my life. And some content that, quite frankly, pissed me off.

But that wasn’t THEIR fault. No one held a gun to my skin taper with a #1 blade haircut head, to be a part of something that I didn’t always believe in. I did that myself. I enjoyed the attention, and I told myself that I was adding value.

But I realized I’m much more interested in finding other ways to add value on the Web. Value that, in my opinion, is sorely missing on this newfangled Internet-thingy. The value that only a Middle Aged Gay Black Queen can add.

So, like it or not, there is yet another Blog in Cyberspace. *SNAP*

What does that look like? Well…I’m not sure. I can tell you what it DOESN’T look like: it doesn’t look like a blog full of judging. There are enough places out there among the blips and bleeps where folks spend their time breaking others down. Most of us get enough of that in our lives in daily doses. I’d rather spend our time together building our shit up, rather than breaking it down.

It also doesn’t look like every stereotype you may have of a Black Queen. I like Barbie AND Football. I can be effeminate one minute and, unfortunately, entirely too chauvinistic the next. I have less interest in telling you what looks good on you, than I do in telling you how FIERCE I think you are (Oh, by the way, I’m taking that word back from Christian Siriano–no offense to him–the boy is BRILLIANT. But too many people think he invented Fierce as a gay expletive. It was around long before he was even a gay twinkle in his parents’ eye).

And I really would like to have your input. Let’s kee kee. Tell me what you’re looking to talk about. I’m game for just about anything. Remember, I grew up in the 70’s. So TELL ME? What’s missing in your Internet Life that a Husky Homosexual of Color might be able to offer? I’ll be setting up for a while, so you can tell me what pictures to hang in the Living Room (I do NOT do poker playing dogs or Elvis on velvet), and what libations you’d like in the bar. I got some collards on(try a little fresh thyme in the water along with the turkey neck bones); some black-eyed peas(bay leaf, cumin and a little cayenne pepper) and slammin’ cornbread (dollop of sour cream in the batter…oooooh chile).

Kick off them pumps and loafers gals and guys, grab a glass of Sweet Tea (I got some Jack Daniels somewhere if you need a kick) and come hang out with a Fierce Black Queen.


14 thoughts on “For luck…

  1. YES!!!

    So. Friggin’. Excited!

    I don’t know what I need, nor would I be so presumptuous as to tell you what to hang on your (likely already fabulous) wall. I’m just thrilled you have branched out, so your fans can now experience Scottyf, on his own terms.

    Hmmm, now…how to let the commentariot and we, the silent TLo lurkers, know you are here?

    • Mary

      YOU are better than a jolt of double espresso in the morning! I can’t thank you enough for your support.

      I guess I subscribe to the “Field of Dreams” motto: “If you build it, they will come.” My caveat is: “If you build it WELL, they will come.” So we’ll see how well this novice blogger can build it. Again, thank you SO much for presence.

  2. Workin’ my way through the days I’ve missed.

    You can write about any thing you please. You see, you are enough like me and different enough from me that I’ve often been able to ‘hear’ something in the more serious comments you crafted for the TLo forum that I’d missed or had never occurred to me. We share many of the same American cultural & educational references (though I suspect from your comments that you have a better education in literature than I), but I’ll never be male, Black or gay. (I’m the white part of a multi-racial family but it’s a first-generation-American demographic, & that’s not the same thing at all.)

    I am as much – maybe more – interested at this point in my life (about your own age) in seeing something familiar from a different perspective than in just learning about new things.

    • It’s so funny. When I was younger, like so many of us I was caught up in drawing worth from the physical things I either had, or didn’t have. Those were the only things I saw as “gifts.” It is amazing to me that reading comments like yours, and the others who have found this piddling little blog are what I now see as the real gifts that life gives you.

      Thank you from the bottom of my fierce, black, gay and humbled heart. 😀

  3. Congratulations on the new blog. Glad I found my way to. So many times you made me stop and think about something from a different prespective. Glad to see that your very unique and perceptive voice is still out there.

  4. Missed you over at TLo, so I hunted you down! Hope you don’t mind. There are so few out there who combine humor, common sense, intelligence and wicked writing skills that I find myself following the ones who do wherever they travel. Love the blog, and wherever your musings lead you is fine with me…

  5. I was wondering what happened to you on TLo! I somehow stumbled upon your blog and had a hint that it was you. Glad I was right and you’re still doing your thing! Just read through the whole thing, and your RPDR recaps have become required reading for me. Good luck, and hope you’re having fun!

    • You are so kind. I am having a ball. There are some GREAT people who comment regularly and make this place exciting. I hope you’ll be one of them. Welcome!!!

  6. How you were dissed by TLo? You definitely were a top contributor, even referring to them as Soul Brothers T and Lo.

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